In the 1989 classic, When Harry Met Sally, Billy Crystal enlightened the world when he explained his theory about men and women lacking the capacity to be “just friends”; due to the fated and inescapable nature of sexual attraction.  Since then, nearly everyone has chimed in on his philosophy; however we all may be making one very impudent assumption.  The assumption being that both people involved feel capable sexual attraction.

My best friends (and probably some strangers) will tell you that I have long been labeled a tease. Stephanie K wrote on Urbandictionary.com that a tease is, “A member of the opposite sex, usually a female, who entices you into thinking you have a chance.” Another contributor to the site wrote that a tease is, “a girl who likes to flirt a lot without the intention of giving it up to you.” Playfully, I agree with the label which I have apparently earned, and while I make no conscious effort to be a tease there seems to be a universal agreement on the assumption that I am one.

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Every “single” person across the board has been asked or heard this question (and chances are that someone in a relationship asked you it), “What are you looking for in a guy (or girl)?"

While the question carries no harm, it does lead one to think that single people merely need to make a list of qualities that they want in a partner and then simply go out and find it. Here is my issue with this question; I’m not looking for anything different than anyone else. The issue is really about chemistry.